Thursday, June 15, 2006

WARNING: ITS ALL CRAP

I have nothing much to say today
But still I want to write...
So its gonna be all crap .... those who dont like crap .... please VANISH from my site!!

Today I can say that I am contributing to the society in a small way.
I am making a film .... he he I wish !!! actually assisting the director who is making a film on sensitizing .... NO WRONG WORD ... simply training doctors about how a standard forensic examination is imperative to raise the conviction rate and provide justice to sexually violated females.

Its interesting ! but I don't know If our approach is right.
IMA gave us a movie which outlined the entire forensic investigation and evidence collection in case of a rape victim. The kind of material they use are expensive, sophisticated. All we have to really do is find a girl who will be a model on whom the examination will be conducted. We are trying to tell the doctors that look this is how a report is written. This is how you look through the microscope. This is how you take the victim's consent before touching her body. This is how you behave in a non judgemental manner. This is how you cant behave with her. This is how you report all findings carefully to the police. This is how you need to follow up after the evidence collection is over. This is how you form a rapport with the victim. This is how you treat her psychologically. This is how you attend to her first and foremost and not leave her waiting till your other appointments are over. This is why you are called God.


I am glad that I am a part of this project. Maybe it is going to be a success ... may be not. Maybe we will get an appointment from Sonia Gandhi... maybe not.
Maybe Rape Crisis Centres will open up in Delhi and maybe not. But its worth a try.

At this point I want to meet a rape victim. There are so many of them ... 3 months old to 70 years old. Raped by neighbour, brother, servant,father, teacher...
I wonder if they will ever be able to trust any man. Even their own husband.
Well thats a different issue .. that I feel strongly about .... Husbands are raping their wives every time they force her to make love to them. It might happen every night. And the fucking society which makes all these rules of marriage never comes to rescue her then.When an unmarried woman has sex with her boyfriend ...she also maybe forced to have sex with him out of the fear that her boyfriend will leave her... we say they made a mistake. We tell the girl to learn to say NO.
But just because now she is married to the same man .... she is expected to do it as a part of her domestic responsibilty or what!!!! Why cant she say nOOOO. And why does it have to be such a big issue if she does. Why is this form of rape LEGITIMATE??.


I know of children who have seen their fathers approach their mothers almost every night ... even when the child is sleeping on the same bed.

Their whole concept of sex gets distorted.


Anyway .. I can on and on about all this. Others might have written pages and pages on the same issue. But the point is that we feel till such time that everything is alright inside our house .... we can only sympathise with other people's problems but what can we really do... IT IS THEIR PERSONAL ISSUE.
But I think there are no personal issues .... all issues are HUMAN.


See I warned you .. I am going to write crap.

3 comments:

Unknown said...

Its not crap dear!!!

Its an awesome post.. I really felt like clapping at the end of it! As you said, its not a personal issue, its human.. its a social issue and am glad you could be a part of it.. contributing to some extent at least! I wish I could in some way too!!

The write up is really nice dear, u've just opened your heart out on the subject.. please change the title of the post dear, coz Its NOT crap!

Very very well written..

Take care,
Aarti

Sakshi said...

Oh My GAWD!!
You have managed to write a very imp post, it is so not crap.
I agree with what you have written 100%.
I hope The crisis centre opens too. I hope Indians change their outlook about sex crimes. There are plenty of women and little girls that are abused everyday. We as a society need to speak up forcefully for these victims. You, my dear, have taken the first step.
Thank you.

North said...

Found your blog by accident, just surfing...

I would like to invite you to visit Jasjit Purewal's blog, she is IN India, and her blog is all about sex-related issues!!

I am sure, her blog may prove to be a valuable asset to your quest??

She and her contributors are sexual abuse crisis councelors...they are magnificent women writing on this blog; and they have great male contributors as well of course.

Their blog is about to become the first blog-book published with Harper Collins in India!! That says a lot, about the quality of her blog.. perhaps she may even help you find a rape victim, to consent to your documentary??

http://www.isitaboutsexblog.com/

Tell them, North sent you...

With Loving Kindness,
North
http://spiritsinmotion.blogspot.com/